Discipline or motivation?

I want to elaborate on something. Something I said last Friday. Last Friday I recorded a vlog where I talked about Needing and Wanting. And how decision-making could make you happy.

I got a lot of questions about something I said in the video. I said that discipline meant you’re punishing yourself and you shouldn’t want to do that.

And that’s something I totally agree upon. Discipline is coming from the situation where you had to take disciplinary measures. Or, in plain English, where you had to punish someone for their bad behavior.

So stating that we need discipline in our lives, in order to achieve things, is totally the opposite of what I believe is far more effective.

We need motivation. And when are we motivated? When we want something.

If you feel you need the discipline to achieve what you want, how is that happening? If you need discipline, you say you are punishing your good behavior. For example. You want to start your own business. For whatever reason, you are without a job, and you want to start your own business.

I don’t care what. First, you think, you need a business plan. It’s something you don’t know how to make that, or write that, but you still think that you need that to start your business. So you feel you need the discipline to get up at 9 am, grab a cup of coffee, open up your laptop, and you start writing your business plan. But day after day, you realize, that you can’t, because you don’t have the discipline. Sounds plausible?

I’m not surprised if that doesn’t work. If you can’t have the discipline to achieve that. You are passionate about the work you’d do as a business owner, but writing a business plan is out of your comfort zone. You don’t know how to do that. So there you are, with your second cup of coffee that day staring at a blank screen. You are punishing yourself. Punishing yourself for the thing you think you would need to have to do things right. But in the end, you end up with feeling crap about yourself because you couldn’t even find the discipline to make it happen. Looser.

Not helpful. Discipline.

Now, what would happen if we change some mindsets here?

You want to start a new business. You have found the motivation to go for that, right? Now, what do you want to achieve with your business?

What drives you? And do you need a business plan for achieving that?

Yes? Cool! Go write one, because you want to. Not because you (have been told) you need one.

Don’t know how to do it? But still want it desperately? You’ll figure out a way to learn. Because you want to.

So instead of punishing yourself with your behavior, and not succeeding in getting what you want, you are feeling motivated. And you find creative solutions to solve your problems.

And it doesn’t matter on what subject we’re talking about. Here on seduction debunked.com, we teach men how to seduce women. So if you think you need the discipline to learn things, you’re wrong. You need the motivation to learn.

If you are not motivated to learn how to seduce a woman, you won’t learn.

So ask yourself this question: What do I want, and what do I need to do, to achieve that? And do I realize, that when I do this, I WILL achieve what I want, because you had the right motivation? The ‘discipline’ to keep doing it, isn’t discipline anymore. It’s motivation because it is something you find valuable to do. And so you do.

It’s the same as with these video’s and blogs. Do I need discipline? No. It’s motivation that keeps me doing this! So I see you tomorrow again!

Make it a great day!


Maurice Zondag

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Maurice Zondag

Maurice is founder of Seduction Debunked. He is Personality Coach and helps people to find their happiness again. One of the ways, is by teaching men the art of seduction. He does that through trainingprograms on Seduction Debunked and through personal coaching as dating coach. Want to know more wha that can do for you? Check out the menu above and contact Maurice directly.

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